Hey it’s Ben just wondered if you’d seen this
Hahaha, I don’t know if you’ve seen this before or not. But naturally, Hulk Hogan makes me think of you, and I thought this was hilarious! HULKCEPTION.
*snigger* I would like to get punched.
Anyway.
I wonder where the hate for “ace” came from. Cuz honestly, it’s fairly benign. Which means you have a problem with the people who use “ace”. Cute.
Orrr it’s some personal problem with “ace” and the association is what bugs you, though this is rather a public way of stating that, so I don’t think that’s it. If this isn’t a demonstration, then I’m a fuzzy walrus.
Honestly? I’m not sure what the secret-maker’s reasons are, but I don’t necessarily disagree. I was luke-warm to fine with it when it was spelled ‘ase.’ Maybe even okey-dokey. I’m somewhere between resistant and resigned now that it’s ‘ace.’ I just don’t like it, and I think it has a bit too much ‘cute’ and ‘clever’ in it. ‘Ase’ made sense to me as a casual abbreviation, and I still habitually spell it that way. Now, I just go back and edit before I hit post. It frustrates me, though I acknowledge and accept that that’s the way the community seems to be going now, and I don’t identify as ‘ace’ myself. It’s small and a petty difference, I do think that, yes, but I’ll still be calling it ‘ase’ in my head, if nowhere else. And only as shorthand for ‘asexual.’
And yes, I realize that my profile seemingly contradicts what I’m saying here. A nod to conformity, avoiding confusion, and minimizing text.
Which is fine. I’m not saying everybody has to like “ace”. I’m saying that that ^ picture is a demonstration. It’s a finger in someone’s face. It isn’t, “I personally don’t like the word ace as an identifier. Please don’t use it when talking about myself.”
Oh, yeah, I get that. I don’t exactly agree with the creator’s decision to make and post the secret. Venting anger or frustration in a secret is not unusual, uncommon, or wrong, though.
And I did want to register my agreement with some of their sentiments, and maybe find out exactly when ‘ase’ changed to ‘ace’ and why. I’ve been in and out of the asexual community for about six years now, and never felt consistently confident or comfortable enough to voice my own opinions here or really stay for long. So… I don’t know if this was me trying to do that or what. Um. Trying to contribute to/start discussion and/or find out some information, maybe, and…
Basically I’m bad at words. That’s all.
Hmm I’ve only been part of the community for about three years, so I didn’t realize there was a time when it used to be “ase.” And in that time, I first learned about “ace” being shorthand for “asexual.” But since then, the term “ace” has evolved to be the inclusive term for the asexual umbrella (including demisexuality, grey-asexuality, etc). So…I think it’s a very important and useful term. And if the secret-maker decides not to use that term as part of their identity, that’s fine. But I think the term “ace” is essential so that people don’t feel we’re ignoring their identities when we only use the term “asexual.”
Know what this secret is missing? “in the face”
I am asexual. If you call me “ace,” I will punch you in the face
A golden opportunity missed.
5days post-op
im 5 days post-op and still have my drains, I thought I had a hair on my chest but it turned out being a stitch :( Earlier today my brother’s asshole of friend asked me “Since you’re not really a guy does that mean that you have a mangina?” my response was “Yes, do you want to lick it?” that surely shut him up. For some reason I often get judge for not fitting into the mold of other trans guys such as the fact that I don’t pack, and I find cisguys and other trans guys more attractive than females.I don’t mind too much though, just means that I’m unique ;)
Them sponges take me back. Back to a bad place with a bad smell. They look good on you though mate. You’re awesome :D
I’m sorry for what happened Alyster. That’s just notnicewords. :( So please take this bear hug. It’s the closest thing I can offer to ice cream.
